— Julie Zhuo wrote:
Ever wish you could tell your boss to change something, but they don't seem open to criticism? Most of us stay silent. Why piss off the person who can promote or fire you? But the ones who do this well gain more respect and trust.
Speak up
How can I guess something is wrong if you don’t tell me what you think? Too often, we think people will feel or see things as we do. But that’s a big lie to ourselves, a way to find relief in blaming others. If you don’t communicate what you think, you miss an opportunity to change the situation. As time passes, the gap widens and that’s when things get really worse. If you feel like a love, friend or work relationship is getting bad, you should speak up now or give up straight away. However, it’s not always easy to gather our thoughts and have the courage to speak up. If it happens to you in a work relationship, I strongly recommend you to have a look at this Twitter thread from Julie Zhuo. She describes a really straightforward process that you can quickly put in place to see if you receive some reciprocity. Because, of course, a relationship is still a team effort that sometimes just needs the momentum of one of the parties to get back on track. Don’t waste your energy on a one-way relationship.