Don’t say « You can’t take a joke » when you haven’t gotten to the joke yet. Jokes are being ruined by people like yourself saying shitty misogynistic things and when we call them out they say « I’m joking ». You were never joking in the first place, you were being a dick.

Are you joking?

« A joke should never end with ''I’m joking'' » once said Mike Birbiglia. A perfect example happened recently on Twitch. Are your intentions about having fun with the person you’re joking with or making fun of this person? Let’s be honest, if your intentions are nothing but to make the group laugh except your interlocutor this might be a sign that there is something wrong, right?