2021, week 38

— Tim Casasola wrote:

While it’s a good use of our energy to name what’s outside of our control, it isn’t a good use of our energy to assume that everything is outside of our control. It’s better to focus on what’s within our control, even in situations where mostly everything is outside of it.

Find what’s within your control | The Overlap

Personal Development

1. Locus of control

Of course, it feels good to vent. You free your mind and temporarily release some bad energies but, if you’re not careful it can become a trap. In fact, by constantly blaming external factors you can easily convince yourself that everything is beyond your influence. In reality, nothing is 100% out of your control. There is always a small locus of control you can find to help you get out of some situations and build up your confidence for the next difficulty. Interestingly, you can use your venting and complaining activities at your advantage to find what’s within your control. In most situations, your helplessness is nothing but the sum of the beliefs and the limits you locked yourself in.

— Nicki Lisa Cole wrote:

For good reason, the expectations linked to front stage and back stage behavior influence most folks to work pretty hard to keep these two realms remain separate and distinct.

Goffman's Front Stage and Back Stage Behavior | ThoughCo

Culture & Society

2. Front/Back/Off stage

We can’t deny it, we all have a Front, Back and Off stage personality. A life where we have different behaviours depending on the Setting in which we operate and the Audience we have in front of us. And, that’s essential to our human interactions. Adapting your behaviour to a situation doesn’t mean you can’t be yourself and honest. I believe that you can still be aligned to your values and the norms that animate you by adopting different roles according to the context. Curiously enough, it’s when you behave the same way no matter the Setting and the Audience that you can become confusing, embarrassing, or even controversial.